running, runners and life livers
August 11, 2014

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running, runners, and life livers.

you guys, i’m running.  this obsessive walker has been pounding the pavement.

i’ve hated running as long as i could remember.

last time i ran was jr. high when i joined the track team.  i joined to hang out with my friends and mostly because the boy i liked was on the track team (this is how jr. highers make decisions).  i hid behind the hurdles (it was just like 20 cheerleading jumps, instead of one).    but, eventually i had to run.  i wasn’t fast so the coach put me in long distance.  i huffed through the 800 meter at meets.  until, one day the one girl who ran the mile race had to go and get sick.  her name was violet.  violet made me sick that day, too, because in her absence, the coach said i had to run the mile.  i flat out told him no and then started crying (because that is what jr. high girls do when they want to get out of something + when they are scared).  he said i was capable and i had to.  i cried the whole 4 times around that gravely track.  probably walked some of it.  pretty sure i talked to myself, mumbled, complained, sang vanilla ice, and willed myself on.  but, i finished.

i’ve been running.

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however, the only running i’ve done in recent years is, wishing i could run away from problems and things that just seem to hard to deal with.  i haven’t gotten far.  when you turn your back and take off, the problems don’t.  they have a way of keeping up with you and certainly slowing you down.  your path becomes circular and you find that you finish where you start and start over again.

over the past year, i’ve changed my course and instead of running from (or wasting days wishing i could run) i’m running head into.  dealing with this, dealing with that, letting the wind hit my face, pushing through the thick air that makes me move slow and breaks down my breath.

i was a runner.

now, a life liver.

it’s life living that got me running.  this course change i’ve made is not a noticeable life change (although over time, perhaps, it will be).  the acceptance that days aren’t just for making it through, but for living in.  small choices, little letting gos and long conversations.

one conversation, in particular, which was actually a planning meeting turned into truth talking.  talking about the ways some of us were one foot in front of the other really living life and how we were wishing for more of that (this is a whole other story – i’m sure i’ll share at some point).  out of this life living conversation came the idea to all run a half marathon together.  to do something that seemed pretty scary to us.  i said yes and thought of the consequences of that conversation later.  now, these days a lot of my life living entails running.

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life living, running, and maybe turning  into a runner.

last week i said, “sometimes it just takes life and some living to know who you are at what you are made of.” 

i never in my life would have thought that this 5’3″ thing could run 6.5 miles, but i did it (and, oy, i’ve got a ways to go before this race).  things are getting real now.  the race is next month.  i have blisters all over my feet and the time it takes to run long distance is almost the most painful part.  honestly, this is helping me live one day at a time because if i think about what i have to do the next day or the next it’s too much.

have you ever done anything that seemed beyond what you thought you could ever do?  

p.s.  i’d love to hear from you runners, live livers and those that run.

if you love to run, tell me your secrets.  i’d even love to know what you like to wear, listen to, eat, etc.  i’ll take any advice.

i find that some days i feel pretty good and others i think i might die after just the first mile and half.

i’m currently running in the nike flyknit shoes. love them but thinking my flat feet might need something else or some kind of inserts?

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8 Comments

commented on August 12th 2014 at 8:18am

Hi Trina!
Good for you running! and I couldn’t agree more with the painful long time it takes to run 6++ miles and so on….
As for your shoes, head down to runners image. You actually need to be wearing shoes that are bigger than your average shoes to avoid toenails from falling off.( yeah…that can happen!) And if you’re getting blisters my guess is they don’t fit right (ouch!) they can do a professional fit and watch your stride to help you pick the best shoe..
And one last bit of vital advice, take really good vitamins and get your rest!
I ran the Chicago marathon a few years back (on a year it was freezing and snowing) I trained all spring and summer in the hot humid Midwest heat and came down with a raging fever and bronchitis the night before the race. I was in complete denial and decided to run the next day (102 fever and all) needless to say I made it to mile 15 and collapsed. Looking back I pushed way too hard and didn’t give myself the recovery I needed. And the sudden change in weather didn’t help.
I can’t wait to hear how your race goes and I’m proud of you! Keep it up!! :)

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replied on August 15th, 2014 at 11:24am

thanks for the advice, genni! how are you????? thank you for the advice! i really appreciate it! and, wow, the chicago marathon. i have a new appreciation for runners, for sure. thanks, again! i’m going to stop in there for sure! xo . t

Genni
replied on August 19th, 2014 at 12:24am

I probably should have warned you that good, really good proper running shoes aren’t always the cutest. However, and I’m sure you’ve discovered, after mile 3 you’d wear bozo shoes if it means your feet won’t hurt! (My “serious” running shoes were mint green and not so cute, but worth every penny!) Saucony’s I think..haha
I’m living in Colorado now and adjusting to the huge change in our life. We built a house and we move in next week. We’ve spent all summer in a furnished condo waiting for the house to be completed. Let’s just say it’s been a lesson in less is more when it comes to space and privacy with 4 kids and 3 bedrooms.
Tell your mom hello and keep up all the dedication to your running!! It’s very much mind over matter :)

commented on August 13th 2014 at 10:23am

i have no running expertise, but a few years back running was the discipline that paved the way of confidence in the heart changes i was making too. i still hate running, but i don’t fear life the way i used to either…i can say yes to dealing with hard stuff…who knew running could be therapeutic and motivational?!?

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replied on August 15th, 2014 at 11:30am

love this…thank you for sharing charissa. it’s amazing the heart moments i’m having when i’m running too. i love how you said you “don’t fear life” the way you used too. i’m hoping to kick fear in the face with my running too.. big xo! . t

commented on August 15th 2014 at 9:41pm

I’ve been a runner off and on for the last 20 years. I’ve run a couple of half marathons and a number of 5k’s and 10k’s. I keep things pretty simple. I’ve never had a problem with my shoes, so I can’t offer any advice there. I have a normal arch, so I don’t look for a particular type of running shoe. My last pair is a little less bulky (minimal shoe), and I really like that it feels lighter. The only thing that I really need when I run is music. I love to listen to a good playlist when I run. I find that it keeps me motivated to keep on going. I’ve never joined a running group, but I have heard that it is a good way of being held accountable to show up. One last thing is the “runner’s high” feels so good after a run that it makes it all worth it. Good luck with your training. Take it slow.

Lizzy

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commented on September 24th 2014 at 12:19pm

I just discovered your blog and love your heart and style. I couldn’t resist commenting on your running post! I was the girl who was “sick” every year the day we had to run the mile at school. Training for my first half marathon a few years ago truly changed my life because it was something that was so out of the realm of possibility for me. And it is totally ridiculous that now I work for Team World Vision, running for a living!

I’m training for my fourth Chicago Marathon this year and still hate running, but it is 100% the cause of raising money for clean water in Africa that keeps me going. Running a marathon seemed totally impossible to me, and doing anything to change the world seemed impossible too. But there is something really incredible that happens when you combine those two endeavors…they both become possible. I’ve found that truly is the thing that motivates me to keep putting one foot in front of the other, making running about more than just me.

HUGE congrats on the progress you’re making and for getting out the door to do something that scares you! It’s worth it!

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replied on October 7th, 2014 at 12:00pm

thank you so much for your sweet words and your comment. i loved hearing about your running experience and the heart behind it. changing the world with your running – is amazing…. your story is totally connected to a bigger one and don’t ever doubt the difference you are making. i love it! one foot in front of the other for sure…i had to keep telling myself that when i ran. i’ve been missing running becuase of my injured toes! and yeah for the chicago marathon!!!!! i have mad respect, now, for the brave ones that run a full marathon! cheering you on! xo . t