do you love love stories? ruche asked me to share my love story on their blog, and since i’ve never really shared my story online so i thought i’d go for it.
i thought you might like to read it too? if you like that sort of thing. if you are all black and death to cupid on valentines day, thats ok too. i wore black all through high school and photocopied a picture of cupid shot by his own arrow. serious angst, but in the middle of it…there was a bit of love — more below.
Love is a thief and we are its captives.
You never know when love might strike or steal. It’s usually when we aren’t looking for it that it finds us. I certainly wasn’t thinking of husbands and marriage at 14, but that is when, my now husband, Stephen stole my heart.
It was early July, 1992 and I was brooding over a bad breakup, as far as freshman break ups go. You know, typical end of the world, I’m never going to be happy again business that consumes your every thought. It was bad news, so i thought, and I certainly wasn’t looking to date anyone else.
On a humid Wednesday I packed up all of my angst, and my youthful confusion along with my umbro shorts and a can of Finesse hairspray and headed to a summer retreat with my youth group in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin. It was on this retreat that I met a junior from Georgia with a sweet Southern drawl. Stephen came to visit his aunt and uncle and attend the same retreat. Fate would have it that we ended up in the same small group (a group I wasn’t even supposed to be in, but got moved to at the last minute). I thought he was nice, but I was busy thinking about my about my bad breakup. Stephen and I hung out quite a bit that week and as I got to know him, I really liked who I got to know. There was something substantially different about him. Manners for one. Southern charm was new to me. But what really caught my attention was that he had a certain kindness about him and a gentle spirit that I just wanted to be around. And, I suppose I shouldn’t leave out that he was a tall blonde, handsome, quarter back, who really won me over by doing a flip flop for me on a warm summer’s night. I clearly remember walking back to my room and thinking, “I could marry this guy.”
Stephen went back to Atlanta and we exchanged letters, the hand written kind, throughout the year. I rationalized with my young mind and maturely told myself that he lived in Georgia and I lived in Illinois so likely nothing would ever come of us this. I let it go, but firmly held onto the idea of Stephen or maybe I should say the ideal of Stephen.
Another summer rolled around and another summer retreat. Stephen came back, but this year he brought his girlfriend. With many laughable moments and a few tears, I again tried my best to be mature and let it go. We talked occasionally that week and we were both grateful to still be friends. Off he went, and so did another little piece of my heart.
I tried not think about him. Only when there was nothing to think about … I thought about him. I wondered what he was doing, how he was doing, and if he ever thought about me, too?
you can read the rest of teenage drama turned true love a.k.a my love story right here!
and speaking of love, i’m loving this sweet video on the definition of love. if you want to join in, share a photo of how you live beautifully using #livebeautifully and you’ll be entered to win $50 to shop at ruche!
p.s. i’d love to hear about your love story.
still thinking hearts? here are a few diy valentines cards that are as simple as they are darling.
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little big girl – - that is who you are at this very moment. caught between the two different worlds that are seemingly connected. like the north pole grabbing hands with the sandy beach or the ocean washing over the desert. that business of wanting to grow up, and yet still loving to play. can i tell you a secret dear daughter and little friend? not the secret about growing up being over rated, which isn’t much of a secret at all, anyways. but the one i haven’t mentioned yet, is that it’s ok to still play. not many will tell you this, or have even figured this out for themesevles, but, the truth is, you will be a better, most creative, and more balanced grown up if you don’t loose the art of play. don’t let that brilliant and interesting imagination of yours wander off into the seriousness we grownies are now being smothered by. god gave you that wild imagination of yours, and the gift of play, not just to be used and then tidied and tucked away after 10. no! he gave it to you to use each and every day of your life. the first 10 years are just the beginning. they are the ones filled with games, and adventures, and far away places. days where you climb trees and eat ice cream covered pizza, for dinner, with a squirrel and a mermaid queen all before breakfast. these periwinkle days are the ones that will color your tomorrows. so go ahead and start your coloring. and, while you’ll want to stay in the lines and make a pretty picture, i urge you to forget all about those pesky bold lines and make a big crazy mess all over that paper. the more colors the better.
dear want to be big girl… i know you so well. i know you better than you know yourself. i wanted my way into big girlness my whole little girl life. and, i got there faster than i figured. only i never really got what i thought i wanted. i never really considered that i might miss all of the good, magical, wonder-filled things that little girls get to do (this is why my bike makes me so happy now, you see). your big girls days will come, no doubt, but i’m wishing for you that you won’t, just yet, let your little girl days go. play school. play store. play mermaids (just don’t put my jewelry in the pool for your treasure, please) until your properly pruned.
you can still play in makeup and talk about what you want to wear. yes, that is fun and part of the playing, too. just pinky promise that you won’t forget to travel in your imagination from here to there. because, when you are older, as you will certainly be, you’ll want to remember how to get from there to here. and, i promise you now, that in still engaging in play you are mapping your way.
+ you are my little baker. apparently all those years of watching giada and nigella have paid off. although, you seem to be a fan girl of the pioneer woman.
+ you are a jr. mommy. thank you. thank you.
+ you’ve started stealing my clothes (and coat) this year. i’m just happy you think my clothes are cool enough
+ you love to ask really deep and, of course, spiritual questions right before bed. good timing!
+ you have a new love for volleyball and sports in general. i never knew my girl would be an athlete and so competitive.
+ you’re favorite way to study is to play school and teach your class
+ instead of, “can we go to mcdonald’s?” it’s more like “can we go to starbucks and get a mocha?”
+ you eat your swedish pancakes with powdered sugar
+ your favorite movie is grace unplugged
+ dork diaries are on your nightstand along with ruby redfort and peter pan
+ making a snack now consists of baking cupcakes, cookies or concocting smoothies
+ you skype with your cousins for hours
+ you still make up songs and i hope you never stop
+ you curl your eyelashes every morning with a pink eyelash curler
do you make your own valentines or do you buy them? while, i would love to share with you some brilliant crafty cards i came up with on a whim, i am one of those that buys kung fu panda and hello kitty cards at my local walgreens. we are usually traveling during february and just don’t have the time to bother. i’ve been spying some really cute ideas on the interwebs that don’t look that difficult or time consuming and i think we just might attempt to make our valentines cards this year.
here are a few of my favorites :
lets start by saying that if making cards is too much, how about making envelopes? this might be the winner idea for me.
glow stick valentines!
i spy valentines printables (shown above). oh, and another cute printable here.
and, valentines photo puzzle (as shown above).
if you’ve seen some great ones, share the link with us in the comments section. love day is one week away!
perusing around beautiful shops, whether in person or online, is certainly a favorite past time of mine. lately i’ve been (virtually) wandering around a darling shop called shed home. lots of lovely in one place. in fact, i found quite a few pieces that i adore (pictured above):
+ tibetan lamb bench (OMG it comes in PINK too) / the perfect statement piece.
+ LOST cart (and, there is a FOUND cart – brilliant) / i love the playful idea of a lost and found at home.
+ acrylic tray / would love this in my bathroom, on my dresser or even in my kitchen.
+ stick earrings/ i’m always drawn to simple elegant pieces.
+ LOVE poster / because LOVE makes the world go round.
+ metal bench / perfect in a mudroom or on a back patio.
+ tibetan lamp poufs - i was just thinking how fab it would be to have a furry poof + poof here it is!
my favorites picks are just a snapshot of the goodness going at shed. head over and take a peek for yourself. and, while you are at it, why not pick up a little something for yourself. valentines day is next week, after all (if you are anything like me than you have probably taken valentines matters into your hands)! and, to make your shopping even sweeter . . .
shed is offering 10% off your entire first purchase through February 28 with code: Shed at checkout.
p.s. for more design inspiration like shed on facebook and follow the shed blog. i’m la la loving this particular post on the color yellow (hello, much needed sunshine!).
this post is in collaboration with shed home.
i’m still thinking on strong. while, i haven’t been as disciplined as i would like to be (mostly with my snacks – surprise, surprise), i have started adding more good things….. yoga, walks, vitamins, water and so on. the thing is, i tend to be the ultimate preparer. i like to study and plan and plan and study and then . . . purchase. and by purchase, i mean purchase things to help me with my plan and make me feel more prepared. i feel like i’m in that stage. so much so that i bought a jump rope, while wandering around target, yesterday. i read this tip and decided it was necessary that i start jump roping.
i’ve also been having this thought that perhaps it’s time to get some decent workout wear. yes, for working out, but mostly because i wear yoga pants, almost every day. i have a pair of zella live in leggings, that i love, but i don’t venture out beyond your basic black yoga pants, which sadly i tend to mix with old t-shirts. i’d love some modern workout wear that i can wear out and about. do you have any favorites?
here are a few of my favorite things when it comes to working out . . and i l’d love for you to share yours with me.
p.s. – all of my reading and planning has me itching for a fitbit (or something similar). do i really need one? i’m kind of hoping you say yes.
image / the fashion spot